Who was Tony Robbins mentor

The coaching and consulting apocalypse: find yourself a mentor and not a coach!

Do you feel the same?

You see offers and more offers from coaches and wonder who is booking them? What can they do? Where do they all come from? Is there a nest?

Also The time writes: "Everyone is doing that now".

And above all, I ask myself: “Why don't they actually do their actual job? The job that they were so good at that they now want to pass on their knowledge to others? "

Why don't we do coaching?

We have 40 freelancers and a few permanent employees. We run many projects with our team in different languages ​​and have been able to make a living from our location-independent work for over 8 years.

Sometimes we joke about whether we want to pass on our knowledge in information products or coaching. The answer is always - no. But why is it like that?

  1. At the end of the day, our time is simply better invested in our own projects.
  2. We have no secret knowledge that you couldn't get elsewhere.
  3. In order for this to be worthwhile for us, we would have to take so much money that I could no longer reconcile this price with my conscience.

Many coaching providers do not seem to be faced with these hurdles.

Coaches coach the coaches and the dream of becoming a coachee

And then there is the meta level. The coaches, the coaches - is the snowball already flying in your face?

Who does not know the Facebook posts in one of the "digital nomad" groups:

Hello, my name is Carl Erich and I would like to work as a freelance coach. Can you help me?

Hi, I'm Karen and I want to coach bloggers, how do I install WordPress again?

Not to mention the 20-year-old work-life balance coaches.

Harrrg ...

And the icing on the cake are the “life coaches” and their trainers.

Here you can find Facebook posts like:

Dear ones, I would like to do a life coach [sic] training course that is completed in one go (3–4 months). Are there any good quality offers?

And these wishes are played out. From coaches who had coaching consultations. For them a template is apparently given out for “lead generation” according to the motto ... read for yourself, it's always the same:

or very nice

What the fuck is a life coach?

Tony Robbins writes: "So what is a life coach? A life coach is someone professionally trained to help you maximize your full potential and reach your desired results. "

That’s a requirement. And that also leads me to the point when coaching and consulting make sense and when they don't.

If you have a specific problem, consulting can help.

  • If you are looking for a business setup in a particular country, you need someone who is knowledgeable about it.
  • If your hamstrings are shortened, you need a personal trainer who knows the right exercises and works with you, looks at your body and finds the cause of the discomfort.
  • If you don't have a plan of SEO and don't have the time to deal with it, you need someone who can train you or do it for you. It is best to have someone with their own projects. And yes, also and especially in this branch of business the charlatans cavort. I have spoken a lot with entrepreneurs who did not know their way around and who have booked offers. It's crazy what some people sell for a lot of money ... always in the hope that someone who knows their stuff will never look over it.
  • If I want the tastiest homemade jam, I'll let mom explain to me how it's done.

A life coach is actually exactly the opposite of advice. He wants to reach your full potential - in everything and everywhere. Personally, I don't think he makes any better jam than mom.

When I hear "holistic coaching", I always try not to open the barrel. Even if the grits detector deflects to the maximum. However, I admire the self-confidence of many coaches to believe that they can provide holistic help. With everything.

Child-like coaches

I have already met many very young and inspiring people. But it is simply absurd to want to start your “career” in general as a coach and consultant.

And that brings us back to the 20-year-old work-life balance coaches. But of course "Carl Erich" and "Karen" want to be trained now in order to be able to "help" other people. And those who are smart sell the shovels to the gold diggers.

When I googled "coaching training" I was surprised by the offer. My first thought was, "Dude, there's a lot of money in there".

There are training courses for 2,500 euros, there are also seals from the "German Association for Neuro-Linguistic Programming (DVNLP)". There are certificates and lots of stock photos of grinning young people - the budding child coaches.

Institutionalization of coaching

I find this institutionalization in particular awesome. Anyone can call themselves a coach - this is not a protected term. Creating institutes now that award certificates is really driven by an interesting entrepreneurial ambition.

In the digital nomad community in particular, word got around that studying is not always the best choice. But to replace a degree with a substitute institution or to simply pay a coach instead, I find somewhat absurd.

At the university you at least have professors who can't just call themselves that because they just had a "transmission" ... Of course there are some rivets there too, where I wonder where the title comes from.

The topic was already discussed in the Springer press in 2014: “There are over 300 coaching courses in Germany, some of which cost several thousand euros. But very few are scientifically founded. What you should pay attention to in the jungle of certificates. "

Old School: Unpaid Internship

Lately it has always been about inspiration. I just got one.

Could it be that the coaches are telling their padawans not to do an unpaid internship under any circumstances? “Don't sell yourselves below value!” I always see a lynch mob approaching me when we offer an internship and that only for room and board.

But maybe you learn more from people who do what you dream of than from people who want to explain to you how to dream. I have just read the sentence twice myself because it is so deep;)

My advice:

Try to work for the people you love. Make yourself useful and find mentors. It's best to offer them something helpful.

  • Do you want to be a photographer? Look for photographers who inspire you.
  • Do you want to become a blogger? Apply to bloggers who you enjoy reading and who are successful.
  • YouTube? You can guess - go see a YouTuber you think is great.
  • You would like to do something in the area of ​​"SEO" (except consulting -_-) looking for people with successful and visible projects. Ideally for people and not agencies.

Often the problem is that many people think: "Oh, that person will get hundreds of applications". From many conversations I can tell you that this is not the case. And certainly not with good initiative cover letters. We only get a handful of good emails a year. If you try hard - deal with your future mentor, you will almost always get an answer.

Incidentally, a little flattery always helps.

Then you just have to be helpful with your internship or job and you can suck your mentor out - and that's a win for everyone involved. You learn a lot and your mentors feel flattered - even successful people are always happy to be interested in what they do.

But how do I motivate myself anyway?

I've never understood all of this personality development, neuro-linguistic programming stuff and esoteric overkill.

Your main problem is motivation? Then independence or location independence is simply not for you. Or not yet.

  • If as a blogger your main problem is finding topics to write about, you shouldn't be a blogger.
  • If you, as a YouTuber, lack the video ideas, this is the wrong job for you.

Sounds tough at first. But another problem in the community is that everyone sees their path as a good solution for everyone else. That is of course not the case. For some, it is the right choice to work as an employee, to become a teacher or an entrepreneur.

I also experience myself how I quickly project my path and my ideas onto others. But that is often wrong.

Rip off through coaching: How do I avoid the charlatans

The DNX Facebook page gives the tip itself:

Tip: Always look at the reputation of the coach. Where does he stand, what results has he already achieved outside of his coaching business, what sales he makes, does he have testimonials, existing customers who check in with interested parties ...

First of all, these are good tips. I would like to make a few more additions:

  1. Testimonials on the Internet should always be viewed with caution. They are very easy to fake. And there are great dissonance effects. That means someone who has just spent 2,500 euros on coaching will find it very difficult to admit to yourself and yourself that they just threw the money out the window.
  2. I think the point about which "sales" and "results" were generated outside of the "coaching business" is exactly right. Unfortunately, most coaches provide little information or only very vague swirls, à la 7-digit sales, which initially means nothing at all.

Conclusion: Not all coaches are bad, but almost all of them.

I also live in my filter bubble and 99 percent of all coaches who advertise on Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Instagram and TikTok are dubious in this. Nightmarishly dubious.

I wish you the best of luck in your search for the one percent. They sure exist and there are legitimate people with legitimate offers too. But right now coaching is just the hot shit and that attracts the fraudsters and opportunists.

Who doesn't know the profiles: "I do: Flirt Coaching / I'm a crypto-expert and can teach you everything about NLP".

That was my view of things now. You can contact me if you want to become a coffee blogger :)

But what are your experiences? Am I too strict and a coach made you successful? I am curious and look forward to all comments.