Men should wear shoes with high heels

Men on high heels | "It takes a helping of courage and eggs"

Long legs, a lively gait and high heels - men can do that too. Helge Buchholz (47) from Mainz likes high heels. He is straight, father and husband. He is a man in high heels - and is not alone in Germany with that.

"You slip in, you are more sublime, you have a completely different demeanor - I feel more comfortable with it," explains the 47-year-old confidently in an interview with the German press agency. He sounds a bit surprised himself.

It announces itself from afar with a loud clatter. His outfit is well thought out: the petrol-colored hoodie goes perfectly with his shiny shoes - around eight centimeters high patent leather high heels.

“Pumps are the perfection of aesthetics,” he says. "This is nothing crazy, nothing perverse, but a love that Carrie Bradshaw and Co. also share." The main character from the cult series "Sex and the City" is known for her love of expensive pumps.

The most expensive pair from Helge cost 160 euros. In total he has over 100 high heels and he is not alone with that.

In the forum he founded "Men on high heels”(“ Men in high heels ”) he exchanges ideas with around 230 other shoe lovers - anonymously or with real names.

Here they present themselves with chic heels on their profile pictures. Pink, with a stiletto heel, platform or in classic black pumps, men's feet pose for the camera. In the forum they report on experiences in high heels or do internal surveys about their own shoe inventory.

Few of the men in the forum are gay

A leg shave is also discussed because it is simply more comfortable under the silk stockings or looks better. The forum is for men who want to exchange ideas about “the interest and enjoyment of high-heeled shoes”, is stated in the description of the site.

It has nothing to do with a fetish. According to their own surveys, only a few of them are gay, most of them just like high heels.

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"It can be a fashion statement, it can be a bit of a provocation, or it can be a real need," says trend researcher Christiane Varga, describing the man in high heels. The high heel emphasizes the feminine attributes. "The gait changes, it becomes sexier, the hips swing with you, the leg is lengthened."

That's what Helge Buchholz appreciates about the shoe. He doesn't feel any less manly in high heels. Rather, it reinforces his masculinity. "It takes a helping of courage and eggs."

He discovered his love for high heels early on

The first time with high heels in public - for many in the forum a great overcoming. A man from Dresden wrote that he had finally dared to post a letter at 4:30 in the morning with ten centimeters under his feet. However, he still moved a little awkwardly in his high heels.

Below the entry are the congratulations from men behind high-heeled foot profile photos who have experienced something similar. Among them is a picture with a bright pink pair - Buchholz's feet and shoes.

He too had a hard time at the beginning. At the age of eleven or twelve he discovered his love for his mother's high heels. "Since then I've been addicted to it all," he says mischievously. When he was 18, he bought his first pair. At that time it had to be done quickly, it was associated with a lot of stress and overcoming.

But worst of all was: The pumps I bought didn't fit! Now he feels safe and comfortable in his skin and on the street in high heels. His wife and children, some friends and colleagues also knew about it. "I like the shoes, I like to wear them and that's it." This explanation is sufficient for most of them.

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High heels for men are a market that Daniel Bush has also discovered for himself. The shoe designer from Mainz designs the high heels for the fashion-conscious man. The often very narrow women's shoe is not so suitable for wide men's feet. He wants to make the high heel suitable for everyday use for the man. He rarely wears them himself. Bush has been selling shoes online under the “Cross Sword” label since January. The high shoe for men is subtle, like dress shoes with a narrow high heel.

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“Gender equality is not related to women, but should also include men,” says Buchholz. There is still a little more to be done in society.

Trend researcher Christiane Varga currently sees the man on high heels as a trend phenomenon. However, it is also a sign of social change, if not only women stumble. “The gender is no longer so fixed.” There is a trend towards individualization; one no longer wants to live in rigid norms and is freer. "If women wear boyfriend jeans, I can also wear pumps," says Buchholz.

At the end of a long day, gender doesn't matter, everyone is happy to finally take off their high heels, says Buchholz. “Take off your shoes, take a breath and let it go” is the shoe lover's tip.

However: Despite the love of high heels, Helge Buchholz usually wears sneakers ...

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