What should 12 year olds do

Upbringing in puberty: what is my child allowed and what is not allowed?

It will get better eventually - this is a hope that teenage parents should never give up. Until then, keep calm, because a rebellious teenager has limited insight. It means: make rules.

Can you go to school with make-up at the age of 12?

The parents decide. Experts recommend: Mothers should direct their first experimentation with make-up in ways, e. B. Buy lip gloss, mascara or nail polish with the offspring. The products should not contain nickel or parabens, which can cause allergies. Make compromises: discreet for school, a little more at a party with friends. Look at it this way: practicing make-up together are very special mother-daughter moments.

A tattoo at 13? The offspring can completely forget that!

Tattooing and piercing are prohibited by law under the age of 16. Both are considered willful bodily harm, even if the parents agree. For this reason, tattooists now not only require a written declaration of consent from their parents, even for 16-year-olds, but often even require a parent to be present during the session. If the studio does not adhere to these rules, they can be sued for damages. So the topic is through until 18 - then no more veto helps.

Are 13-year-olds allowed to go to the disco and party right down to the dolls?

Normally, kids under the age of 16 are only allowed to go to the disco when accompanied by an adult. Exception: parties in youth centers, where everyone can celebrate until 10 p.m. In the disco, even at 16 you have to go home at midnight.

Smoking at 14? The parents have to make clear statements

The protection of minors prohibits underage persons from smoking in public. But kids don't punish themselves with it. You don't get anyone banned from being banned, the only thing that helps is persuasion.

When are kids allowed to officially have sex?

The legal “age of consent” is 14 years of age, so sex under 14 is prohibited. As long as kids of the same age do "it" anyway, there are no consequences. But it is if one of them is older or even of legal age. Then there is a threat of criminal charges.

Is the pill already a matter of course at 14?

When a girl is given the pill is essentially the doctor's decision. He will make it dependent on his "psychological maturity". It is also at his discretion whether he informs the parents about it.

Thick topic - when are young adults allowed to drink?

Under the age of 14, the consumption of alcohol is prohibited according to the Youth Protection Act. From the age of 14, children accompanied by their parents are allowed to B. taste alcoholic drinks at family celebrations. From the age of 16 you can buy drinks with a lower alcohol content yourself. In the case of high proof, this is only allowed from the age of 18.

When can a child start earning something from a job?

Light jobs such as delivering the newspaper, babysitting or walking dogs are only allowed from the age of 13. However, a maximum of two hours a day and only after school. Kids aged 15 and over are allowed to work up to eight hours a day, but only on weekdays between 6 a.m. and 8 p.m.

Do I really have to buy my child a smartphone?

No. But the right mobile phone is a status symbol, a means of self-expression and the most important means of communication. That is why your child “must” have it. Nevertheless, it is not entitled to it.

Can I forbid my child to have a driver's license at 17?

Not without a valid reason. There is even a verdict on this: Judges at the Hanover District Court found that the driving license serves the best interests of the child (Ref .: 609 F 2941/13)


You can also find important information on the subject of “youth protection” in the new youth protection guide from the Association for Citizen-Oriented Transport Policy.

Puberty: 10 golden rules for parents

  1. Accept that your child now wants to go their own way more often and withdraws more and more often or prefers the company of their friends over family.
  2. Show your children what you believe in and what is important to you.
  3. Be there when your child needs help. Refrain from making statements like: "I told you that right away."
  4. Be consistent! But also show willingness to negotiate. And: agreements apply to both sides.
  5. Face the conflict.
  6. Stay in touch, show you are ready to talk. And keep offering to do something together.
  7. Gradually give your child more and more responsibility, including when it comes to money.
  8. Try to accept your child's clique as much as possible.
  9. Use every opportunity to talk about everything that moves your child.
  10. Stay calm.