How do I deal with my ADHD

How do you deal with ADHD?

Everyone who deals with ADHD children is faced with new challenges every day. There are practical and simple aids on how to deal with these children a little easier. A structured daily routine and certain rules of conduct can support the ADHD child and his family to cope better with the disease. Here are a few tips to make everyday life a little easier:

  • Clear rules and times
    Giving everyday life a firm structure is very important for the children concerned. A simple weekly schedule makes sense. It is crucial that parents, teachers and educators also adhere to rules that have been set up. This is the only way they can help the child, for example, to comply with plans for specific preparation for class work, homework or other tasks. Stop and reminder signs can, for example, arouse a sense of responsibility and enjoyment of the matter for homework ("Attention: homework zone") or for smaller, clearly defined tasks in the household.

  • Seek a conversation with teachers
    Find a conversation with educators and teachers. Regular discussions enable everyone involved to better assess the child's situation. In addition, they can contribute to a positive relationship between the child and the educator and achieve a greater understanding of his or her particularities. Ask the teacher to place the child in such a way that he can establish constant contact with the child and draw his attention again and again, possibly even without words with the help of signal cards.

  • Fixed homework routines
    Fixed processes promote concentration and help to create calm. They are particularly suitable for the homework situation: Homework should always be done in the same place and at the same time of day. It is advisable to alternate between work and relaxation phases, for example a 10-minute learning phase at the beginning and then three minutes at leisure. Homework is also more successful in a low-irritant environment: make sure that siblings and pets are not in the same room. Also, block out noises as much as possible: telephone, computer and television should be on. A tidy desk that is free of toys, leisure reading and food is less irritating. Weekly and class work plans that structure learning are particularly helpful. A clock or egg timer can also help, which clearly heralds the learning and relaxation phases. At the end of the homework, the school bag should always be packed for the next day and the desk should be tidied up. Homework is especially stressful for children with ADHD. Praise your child when they finish them off.

  • Reward system
    More effective than scolding and punishing is a laudatory reinforcement of positive behaviors. Praising and rewarding, as well as a fixed daily routine, should be predictable for the child. It can be helpful to have a special reward plan that is displayed on the door of the room or in the kitchen for everyone to see. Every behavior worthy of reward is noted with a corresponding number of points and "rewarded" with the previously agreed reward.

  • Feedback to the children / adolescents
    Just as the reward should always be direct, censure or a punishment appropriate to failure should not be postponed. In this way, the children can develop a sense of the consequences of their behavior - whether or not they obey the rules. In the negative case, an open conversation with the child often helps so that they learn to understand that something is not going right.

  • Space for the urge to move
    Since children with ADHD usually notice hyperactivity, i.e. a very strong urge to move, it is important to steer this urge to move in the right direction. Targeted sporting activities should be encouraged so that the children can really "let off steam" and let off steam. For concentrated learning phases, this also means that short movement times must be allowed from time to time. Halfway through their homework, a few stretching exercises like the "jumping jack" or "reaching for the birds in the air" could make the ADHD child's "inner engine" run a little quieter.

  • Support and encourage positive traits
    ADHD children have many positive traits and behaviors such as creativity and helpfulness. Recognizing your strengths, promoting them and using them positively as often as possible is an important task for you. The "diary of big and small successes" can help you with this. Everyday successes can be documented in it. This promotes the motivation and self-confidence of the ADHD child.

  • Show affection
    Despite all the problems and difficulties, ADHD children need a lot of love and affection. You have to be able to see and feel it. For parents, teachers and educators, this means that they should show this again and again. The special characteristics and abilities of ADHD children - creativity, inventiveness and spontaneity - should be encouraged and praised. The child needs to feel accepted and should keep hearing: "It's good that you are here!"

How can the child be accompanied during the treatment?

Close cooperation between parents, doctor, therapist and teachers is essential for a positive course of treatment. The parents are very much involved in the treatment process. In many cases, the doctor asks them to use special questionnaires to document the children's behavior during the course of treatment. This requires parents to closely monitor changes in their children's behavior during therapy. The success of a treatment is not immediately apparent. As with many other diseases, the therapeutic success is greatest when both the treatment and the cooperation between those involved take place continuously over a longer period of time.

What should parents of affected children consider?

The often difficult moments in living together and in the company of ADHD children are often very stressful for parents. That is why you should treat yourself to a little break every now and then and consciously do something without your child. Recovery phases are important, because if the parents can deal with arguments more calmly, the child is also better off.

Contacting other parents in a support group can help. There experiences and problems can be exchanged and offers of help and information can be used. The commonality with other affected persons makes it reassuringly clear that you are not alone and that other parents also have problems coping with living together with their children with ADHD.

You can also find further plans for concrete assistance and suggestions to cope with everyday life in school, leisure and family a little better under the menu item Downloads.

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